We secretly harbor the belief that we are not enough. Fear drives us. We struggle to achieve. We hope eventually we will reach a level of success and feel okay and enough.
It’s not your fault. You have been trained to compare yourself to others, compete, fight, cheat, look out for our self, and claw your way to “the top”.
Stop playing the game of achievement. You are already enough. You do not need to achieve or consume your way to feeling okay and enough.
YOU DON’T NEED TO EARN THE RIGHT TO LOVE YOURSELF.
When you realize who you really are, your belief of “not enough” will fall away.
Society conditioned us to value our self with a broken measuring stick
The game of school is rigged. Your value is measured by the amount of information you process. (This seems stupid given the how easily and instantaneously we can access information today.)
The institution of school has stoked our inner fires of insecurity and fear to control us, keep our butts in seats at school doing make-work that we usually don’t find interesting or relevant. Kids know that most of what they are learning is irrelevant to their lives and it is incredibly boring.
Because most of school is so excruciatingly boring and irrelevant, teachers need to resort to fear and shame to get them to continually process information. Threats of bad grades, office referrals, in-school suspension, combined with public ridicule and shame, leave students fearful, stressed, and insecure.
It is not the teacher’s fault. Teachers are trapped in this unnatural system too. Schooling is an unnatural way of learning that forces kids to learn the same things and the same time irrespective of interest or ability.
But still… If we got bad grades, we think we’re stupid. If we got good grades, we will often stay on the performance and achievement treadmill for life. It doesn’t matter that only 5% of people learn in the auditory-sequential-symbolic way of schooling. We still believe that arbitrary grades on academic make-work mean something about our self worth and value.
You think you are just a commodity
Schooling trained you to be the producer and consumer of your own information. Your value to the job market is only demonstrated by proxy with a piece of paper that proves you did your time. 13 years in school gets you a high school diploma. 6 more years might get you a college degree.
The reason that economics professor Bryan Caplan, author of The Case Against Education, says that a college degree is mainly a signaling device of employability is because you don’t get any social creds for doing one or two years. He makes a good case.
“Education is a waste of time and money because so much of the payoff for education isn’t really coming from learning useful job skills. Nor is it coming from students savoring the educational experience. Rather, most of what’s going on is that people are showing off — or, as economists call it, they are “signaling.” They are trying to impress future employers by showing how dedicated they are.”– Bryan Caplan, The Case Against Education
Caplan shows in his book that cognitive gains are minimal in college and that most of the knowledge that comes from schooling is “inert”, meaning that it can be applied to test questions that mimic the way the information was taught, but people are unable to apply the knowledge to real world situations.
So, if you aren’t gaining useful skills and aren’t enjoying the process, then why invest the first 24 years of your life to schooling? We submit to schooling’s grading and sorting because we have no choice.
We will continue to submit to this arbitrary measuring stick as long as a college degree is the golden ticket to adulthood and the promise land of high-paying jobs.
We all believe and fear that we are not enough.
Comparison is the death of happiness. Of course, there will always be someone who is better at something than we are. Of course, we cannot be good at everything. Schooling asks fish to climb trees and birds to swim. Media presents us with fake, altered images of people. 13-27 years of this conditioning and we all believe that we are not enough…
you are not smart enough
you are not beautiful enough
you are not skinny enough
you are not rich enough
you are not loved enough
you are not popular enough
Those are all bullshit. They are false beliefs you picked up trying to play the rigged game of schooling.
We also believe that there is not enough to go around.
School and fearful adults programmed you to believe that you aren’t enough so that you would “survive”. They wanted to protect you from a world they believe is cold, and uncaring. The collective story is that there is not enough for everyone. This is not true. There is definitely enough for everyone. We just need to see life more accurately and clearly.
You have been conditioned to view the world in a specific way. We have been told that the world is cold and competitive, good jobs are scarce, and you need to look out for #1. This is simply not true unless we think it is and make it so. We have been trained to believe there is not enough…
there is not enough money
there is not enough love
there is not enough friends
there is not enough opportunities
there is not enough jobs
there is not enough appreciation
Bullshit! There is plenty to go around. When we stop playing the game of achievement, we will reallocate our money in healthy ways.
Our insecurity drives the economy
Comparison is a joy killer. So why are we trained to continually compare our self to others by school and media? Programmed insecurity props up the economy.
Our economy and monetary system requires never-ending growth. People need to continuously buy and consume stuff. Debt creates money. When you take out a loan, money is created. With no debt, there is no money.
Companies and their armies of psychologists, advertisers, and marketers stoke our inner fears and insecurities to sell us everything from cars, closets, makeup, cheeseburgers, beer, therapy, and self-help techniques. They promise that buying their stuff and “solutions” will cure our not enough-ness and self-doubt.
Why do you buy the latest car, smartphone, fashionable clothes, makeup, home decor, and other stuff? Because you believe that it will make you feel better. Why do you strive to climb the corporate ladder? Because you believe that with a higher position, the prestige and more money will make you feel better about yourself.
People are losing hope about the deplorable state of our world. If you are worried about environmental degradation, climate change, over-consumption, mental illness, inequality of income distribution, then you need to look at the source of the problem: programmed insecurity.
Your insecurity is not your fault
Schooling acts as the reproductive organ of society and reproduces its thought patterns. One of the strongest criticisms of western culture is its over-consumption and resulting environmental degradation of the planet. Schooling created this wacky consumer culture by training us to be consumers whose perceived value increases the more we consume.
I invested over 15 years trying to create alternatives to factory schooling. In doing so, I saw directly the underbelly of the $1,350 billion U.S. education industry. That’s $1.3 trillion dollars. $1,350,000,000,000. There are a lot of companies making a lot of money – including textbook manufacturers, standardized testing companies, and edTech startups making you feel insecure. It’s a racket.
Once you realize that programmed insecurity is the foundation of an exploitative economic system, you can start to make sense of your individual insecurity and mental dis-ease.
“I am Enough” is your natural mindset
Okay – great, so I’ve been programmed to believe that I am not enough. Now what? There’s bad news and good news. First the bad news.
Everything you’ve been told that you need to do to overcome the imposter syndrome, love yourself, feel okay, etc. won’t work. Because you don’t understand who you really are. You are not this collection of ideas and beliefs that form your self-identity.
You are so much more. You are powered by the intelligent energy of the universe. If flows through you and when you open yourself to it, you understand that you are at home in an intelligent, loving universe. You develop a creator mindset.
A creator mindset doesn’t need to compare or compete. A creator mindset sees work as play and delights in failing on the way to success. As a fearless creator, you can rest into your natural state of mental health, peace of mind, and joy. You were born to be a creator not a consumer.
Are you tired of being fearful and insecure? Do you think it’s a personal problem? The world needs your gifts and talents. Join the free exploration: You are Enough.